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6 June 2009

The Don

A Hollywood movie should be made about blokes like 'the Don'.
Real, funny, affectionate, larger-than-life, fun-to-be-around, family blokes.
I knew Don from when I was a whippersnapper.
He looked tall to me back then...
tall and lanky and full of grins and snappy jokes.
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He was always to be found at the woodchop arena, competing, urging on his many family members in their events, talking up the young guns chasing his tail as 'the man to beat'.
He was the one on the mike, geeing up the crowd, coaxing donations out of the onlookers to help 'pay' for the schoolkids picking up woodchips and off-cuts between woodchop events.
He had six children, innumerable nieces and nephews,
many many grandchildren.
He adored them all.
He just liked people - he was charming as hell but dependable too.
Happy and a good listener.
A champion storyteller.
A great mate.
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This week, the sprightly 73-year-old was competing at another show (it happened to be the very town he began his woodchopping careers so many years ago). He and his brother had just got into the final of an event ('not bad for a couple of old codgers', I can almost hear him quip) and after posing for a photo with an old friend, he was lining up with axe in hand to the block. He never took that chop. Surrounded by his friends and family, he was instead helped into an ambulance attended by his niece.
And it was there he took his final breath.
Quickly, without fuss, he left.
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Yesterday they buried him.
It was not without fuss.
I wasn't there, so my descriptions are second hand.
Bear with me. I have heard such vivid recounts of the day that I feel I might have been standing there too. Hopefully the emotion won't blur the accuracy too badly!
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They laid his body to rest in an old cemetery on his cattle property, set in picturesque hills amongst the Great Divide, his beloved Santa Gertrudis cattle dotting the hillsides.
More than a thousand people trailed in beside the old homestead,
the SES volunteers guiding cars off the highway,
assuming all traffic on the main road was attending this heavy-hearted event.
(They were right.)
Apparently it was kind of like a show.
Same people, different reason for gathering.
There because they loved and respected this wise-cracking 73-year-old.
All his grandchildren lined up with special treasures to lay on his coffin.
A bowl filled with mandarins,
(always on hand for a snack when Don chopped)
The whip he always carried over his shoulder when he mustered,
(he said he felt a bit naked without it)
And the girl who mustered with him brought his horse,
bridled and saddled as if to ride.
Then, as they said their farewells, she uncinched the girth, slid the saddle and cloth from his back, and unbuckled the bridle. The horse galloped (they say) off from the crowd, and down to a mob of cattle in the paddock nearby. It rounded them up, around and around, as if it's master were still astride.
There wasn't a dry eye in the crowd.
(And just quietly, there's not one to be found at this computer either!)
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But in his inimitable style, Don's wit shone through the sadness.
It was announced that he had requested to be buried feet first...
'So he could see which of you buggers actually made it to the funeral!'
And I imagine the ripple of laughter of a thousand people drying out the tears.
If I had been there, I reckon I would have thought about his influence on my family.
I would have recalled him encouraging my brother to weild an axe, to hone his craft, to enjoy his new sport.
Then the image of him, quietly applauding my son in his imitation of the 'big boys' at a hacked-at block beside the arena, might have come to mind.

I would have assured his loved ones (in their grief) of something they already know:

that his legacy will live on.

In the woodchop arena. And beyond.

R.I.P. The Don.

Just a great bloke.

5 June 2009

Her eyes...

I often imagine she has old eyes...
whatever that means...
Perhaps it means that they seem
knowing and watchful and hard to fool?
Because sometimes they look clean through you,
and sometimes they are afire with brimstone and wrath,

other moments see them

questioning, impatient, unwavering...

and then sometimes...

those same eyes light with the delight of being a child,

anticipating good and right and just.

May her 'old eyes' hang onto that light of delight

for as long as we all shall live.

Amen.

1 June 2009

Delight in the details: the anti-anti-aging post

I have to admit to being a little hot under the collar lately...
about all this anti-aging attitude on TV.
One Aussie show in particular - Ten Years Younger in Ten Days - has really bothered me. It promotes botox injections and surgical eye lifts among it's 'tools' to 'improve' people's appearance. It bothered me not ONLY because I think of makeovers involving surgery as 'Only in America' activities (sorry my Yankee friends) but because it seems to reflect how society (the global village society) looks upon the more mature citizens of this world.
The ones that have actually DONE SOMETHING.
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Now I am not devoid of vanity - I make the occasional effort to look good. I have no issue with people making the most of their looks, in buffing up, fixing teeth, feeling better about themselves. (Heck I should do some more of that myself!).
But when we clear our faces of expression, of our trademark lines and natural responses, aren't we clearing our personal history and even a piece of who we are?
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What does it say when we decide someones worth is in how young they look?
What does it tell our kids when we elevate lack of laugh lines to 'must have' status?
What does it give away about our own sense of being when immobile brows and surgically-enhanced eyes - to the point it's possible our own families wouldn't recognise us - is seen as essential to our state of mind?
Something bloody frightening, that's what it says.
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You know, I don't get het up much - and I really have liked Sonya Kruger (the presenter of this TYYiTD) who is generally pretty and sharp and funny. But I swear - if I hear her say
"Your kids won't know you"
(and giggle like it's a good thing)
one more time - I will scream.
I take photos of people and things. Old and young.
And let me tell you something, Ms Kruger:
It all gets more beautiful (in my eyes) the older anything is.
Sure the paint might not be perfect and line-free,
but the stories of adventure and life and strength lie in each crack, each flake, each non-sheer inch that faces the world, make it something to gaze at in quiet appreciation.
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And sure, the odd hinge might be a little rusty...
...but it's changed patina echoes the incredible job it has done throughout the years
and the weathered pieces surrounding it have a charm no buffed-up new planks could possibly hope to share.
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And, in certain lights, the surreal glow of aging metal - earned through years of service and dependability and practicality - can pretty much stop you in your tracks. The elegance and character born of years of gravity and the elements is impossible to achieve with anything less than the teamwork of Mother Nature and Father Time.
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Even weeds rejuvenate naturally with the seasons - beauty in the bloom and in the fading flower. One no better than the other.
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Why do we think it's any different for humans?

Why can't we cherish & revere faces that have stood the Tests of Time,

as we do weathered sheds

and antique furniture

and fine wine?

Damn it.

I think we should.

31 May 2009

Reflection question...

Snapped after a wonderful family photo shoot yesterday...
- and yes, both the family and the shoot were pretty amazing -
a horse drinking deep from a dam right on dusk...
Colour...
or black-and-white??

30 May 2009

The Cook and the Chef...

My kids love cooking.
Love getting up their elbows in the kitchen.
Love making messes.
And while I do encourage their enthusiasm for 'making, baking, cooking all the while' it has recently become clear that perhaps I haven't been truly recognising their potential.
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To explain, I need to backtrack a little...
Has anyone ever seen the ABC TV show 'The Cook and The Chef'?
It's close to my favourite television show.
(Mr Incredible is a fan too - though Top Gear still wins out when push comes to shove!).
For those who don't have the delight of access to the show, it features the fabulous Maggie Beer (The Cook) and sharp-witted Hilton-based guru Simon Bryant (The Chef), a couple of culinary-blessed scalliwags. The pair combine in an Odd Couple kind of way to whip up theme-inspired mouth-watering dishes with delicious unrehearsed humour and an easy cameraderie.
Laughter and drool.
It's a winning combo.
It's almost enough to make me want to get arty and energetic in the kitchen.
(I soon calm down though ... I detest cleaning up!)
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Some of the energy from The Cook and The Chef has clearly rubbed off on my kids.
To illustrate I'll share a little sequence taken in our backyard this week.
The kids had no idea I was taking their photo... I was being sneaky and shot at full zoom on my trusty 18-200mm. They were totally natural and the chatter was full bore.
As usual, please ignore uncombed hair, stained white fence in background - dirty sprinkler water does that - and abandoned bikes near unphotogenic deserted veggie garden.
I do.

I am imagining the conversation, a la 'The Cook and The Chef':
Violet: So Dash, I have never seen mud pies created quite like that before...

Dash: Maybe not Violet, but I reckon you are going to add this one to your next cookbook, it's so good!

V: Ooooh, and what is that ingredient you're adding there Dash?

D: That's a handful of couch grass from behind the old vege patch Violet. It adds a certain cheeky element to the pie. You'll see what I mean in a second...

V: I can hardly wait Dash. I have never had lawn clippings in my mud pies before.

D: You don't know what you are missing, its a great combo... a bit 'out there' but makes the whole experience really memorable... but enough about me...what are you working on there Violet?

V: Well Dash, it's a tried and true recipe from the CWA 1965 cookbook for dirt scones. There is nothing like the homespun charm of a dirt scone, you know.

D: I hope you have some whipped cream for that dish - makes me think of my grandma!

V (giggling) : Oh Dash, you are naughty!!!
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Do you think my imagination runs away with me sometimes?
Or perhaps I just watch too much TV...

27 May 2009

Violet and her (furry) boys


This slideshow shows a series of shots taken this week when Violet tried to take our (non) adventurous Great Dane puppy Axel to meet Rob Roy, the (non) enormous equine terrorising our houseyard boundaries!
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Firstly, Axel sat in our 4-year-old's lap as she chatted to him about climbing trees and riding horses and Barbie Dolls. Then the puppy and his human approached the shaggy shetland (who has momentarily halted eating). As you can see Axel was a tad less enthusiastic about the encounter than his bold owner. The second horse is Cherokee, one of Mr Incredibles steeds. He's gorgeous and snorts a lot (the horse, I mean).
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D'ya like the slideshow... please bear with me as I work out this new (for me) application. Sizes still a bit haphazard, but you get the drift.
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Now if you will excuse me, I have to chase Rob Roy and his followers out of the houseyard AGAIN!